People around me were very nice when I was being treated for cancer in 2008. My friends came with me to the doctor, and to the infusion center when I had chemo. They asked what else I needed, and if I responded with 'nothing' (which was often), they believed me and didn't push.
Somehow I don't think Swedes would have been so effortlessly helpful.
So it's ironic that not until today has that basic generosity, thoughtfulness, and inclusion been official policy in the United States.